Tuesday, 4 February 2014

How far do you go to instil good manners in your toddler?

I recently read a post about manners on one of the millions of parenting sites that spring up on my Facebook and twitter feed. It was asking whether manners are old fashioned and how our expectations of children have changed over the years.

Should boys still hold open doors for girls? Should children stand up when adults enter a room? Should your toddler say please and thank you?

Now the boys are 2 they understand that they have to say please and thank you and even though they probably have no idea why we're doing it, it is an important habit that I want to them to form. We have a lot of play dates and we always thank both the child for sharing their toys and the mother for inviting us or we thank them for making the journey to come and see us. This is a habit that has been instilled in me since I was a child and I was always reminded to say 'thank you' when I was invited round to a friends house.

We have finally managed to create and post off all of our 'thank you' cards for birthday/Christmas, it took ages but it was important that we finished them. I am always a little surprised if children don't send thank you cards for their presents, but maybe that's just me. It's quicker and easier not to send traditional cards or a modern e-card, but even though we all have busy lives is it not still important to say 'thank you'?

I work a couple of evenings in a supermarket and if somebody asks "where are the mushrooms"...the first thing that springs to my mind is "now, what's the magic word?". How hard is it to stick that extra word on the end of your sentence? Are your tongue and mouth muscles feeling extra lazy today, you miserable...? Anyway, I digress...

I don't think it's about being strict, but I think that we should be grateful for day to day things, whether it's the brief encounter with the shop assistant as she locates the mushrooms or a friend who has had us over for tea. It shows people that they are appreciated and everybody deserves to be appreciated.

I used to work in a lovely place where the men would always hold the door open for women and I loved that. I don't understand people that feel offended by it, it is just a show of consideration and politeness. Some manners like these are probably becoming slightly outdated, but others such holding doors open especially for the elderly or for someone with a pushchair I think shows consideration and empathy.

I think our opinion on what constitutes good manners varies, but in my opinion manners are about being grateful, courteous and considerate in ones behaviour.

What manners are important to you and your toddler(s)? Do you send 'thank you' cards?






Wednesday, 29 January 2014

A little vent...

This blog is generally about day to day life with triplets, but today I feel like having a little rant...because I can. This little thing has bugged me for a while, but after a particularly irritating and saddening experience recently I thought I would have a little vent on here.

We hadn't made any plans for the day so I thought I would take the boys to a little indoor play area with a coffee place attached. Most parents/caregivers will sit and have a coffee whilst watching their children or get inside the play area with the children, but why oh why do some people think that it's ok to plonk their sprogletts into the play area and then bugger off and have a coffee and a chat with their friends?

Today I was sat in the play area with my coffee on the side and there was a group of child minders behind me having a gossip and a coffee whilst their children played. Fine. However, when the children needed speaking to they were shouting across the entire room to "GET DOWN" and "STOP HITTING GRACE" constantly. Honestly, it was embarrassing and very irritating with it being right behind me.

When one little boy had a bit of a gentle tussle with Harry, he got upset and started crying. Not one of them got off their arse until I picked him up to comfort him and handed him over to one of the women. She looked at me as if to say 'thanks for interupting my conversation, can't you see I've already got a baby on my lap'? Later on that same little boy was crying at the gate asking for a cuddle (he must have been just 2) and the miserable mare told him to "shut up crying and making stupid noises" and "go and play!" In the end someone eventually came and got him.

I find it awful listening to parents talk to their kids like this, but to hear a childminder is even worse because I bet the parents have no idea! I would be livid if anyone spoke to my children like that especially someone who I trusted and was paying to look after them. I desperately wanted to ask them "If children irritate you, why are you a childminder?" but thought better of it seeing as they were a gaggle and I was on my tod.

Anyway, rant over.




Tuesday, 7 January 2014

Pampers offer £20 vouchers for twins, £30 for triplets and £40 for quads

It's always nice to come across a company who look after us multiple parents. Heck someone's got to! Pampers offer parents of twins, triplets and more vouchers to spend on nappies and wipes you just need to follow the steps below:


  1. Write to p&g@teleperformance.com and say that you would like to take advantage of their very generous offer for multiple parents. They will send you a reference number in return.
  2. You will then need to send an email with a scanned copy of the children's birth certificates, the reference number and your address to the email address that they provide. (I took a picture of the certificates on my phone!)
  3. My vouchers arrived in 3 days!

Happy nappy shopping!

Latest Kiddicare blog post: A new job

So it’s nearly Christmas and I cannot believe that I am the proud owner of three nearly two year olds. My little babies are a distant memory and they are now boisterous little boys, full of fun, defiance and excitement.

People often ask me if it’s getting easier now that they are getting older and although certain aspects are getting easier such as feeding and even logistics, they are definitely more demanding now! Sometimes I feel like I live with three little dictators – if they want something, they want it 10 minutes ago!

Read the full post here:

Sunday, 27 October 2013

Are your gums in need of some love?

I have to admit that I have been a little neglectful in the teeth department since the trio came along (I mean it's not like I was busy or anything!) So, I took the plunge and organised a family trip to my quite unsympathetic dentist earlier this month, where she told me that I had swollen gums and was at risk of developing gum disease! What?! I have never had a problem with my teeth or gums, I don't even have any fillings! She said that pregnancy can bring about all sorts of hormonal changes affecting teeth and gum health and I needed to act quickly to avoid further damage.

Wednesday, 16 October 2013

Kiddicare post: One on one time with triplets

My lastest Kiddicare blog is about spending more quality one on one time with each baby and getting used to the sometimes disgusting side of parenting!

You can read the full blog post here:

Friday, 4 October 2013

The joys of weaning multiples!

The lovely Shona at Wriggly Rascals very kindly asked me to write about my experience of weaning the boys and although it was quite a while ago now, the mess that they create is still just as bad.




Read the full article here:

Wednesday, 28 August 2013

Useful contacts

TAMBA

A charity set up to support multiple birth families in the UK. Monthly subscription is £2.50 and you get a quarterly magazine as well as lots of discounts.

http://www.tamba.org.uk/

Twinline

This is a national, support helpline for people with twins, triplets or more.

Call: 0800 138 0509

Multiple mischief - The time we tried to hoover



Sounds innocent enough right?

Well...there I was clearing away their dinner plates and getting stuff ready for their bath when I hear "Uh ohhhh" "Arrrrrghhh arghhhhh" from the living room.

Upon poking my head around the corner I see a naked Harry (who wasn't naked prior to me leaving), pointing to a substantial pile of poo while his brothers are standing in the said poo with two of my hoover attachments trying to suck it all up.

I clumsily clamber over the stair gate flapping hysterically. I'm pretty sure they I thought I was joining in with their poo dance as they begin to giggle and look very proud of the fact that they have "helped" mummy clean up the mess.

Needless to say, bath time quickly followed.

Multiple Mischief - The beginning

There is an abundance of mischief in my house and I figured it was time to start taking note of it. I hope to remind them of their antics when they are older so here begins the "Multiple Mischief" section to my blog.

I hope you enjoy it, whilst bearing in mind that for every story on here I am a step closer to acquiring my first grey hair...